I am no stranger to negative consequences. I have made so many poor choices throughout life that I’ve lost count. I could probably count the consequences I’m left dealing with as they sure seem to be long standing. Which begs the question, how do we carry on with life and maintain a good attitude when life sucks?
Although there is no one answer that handles this question, we will look at several things we can do to make improvements to our negative situation and maintain a good mood while doing it. This is a process and if not accustomed to strong positive thinking and behavior, this might require some extra effort and focus.
As for trying to maintain a perfect attitude in all situations at all times, let’s not aim too high just yet. As we are still human, we still have emotions and certain things will trigger us differently. For the times when our attitude does shift to negativity, we need to develop a pattern for catching ourselves and getting over it quickly without doing more damage, which often results in more negative consequences.
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4 steps to improving our circumstances and attitude
In this article, we will look at a few ways to work through our situations and to build a great attitude that will keep us pointed forward, even in tough times. Again, this isn’t easy right away, but it is purposeful and eventually, rewarding.
As we learn to make better choices, we will start seeing better results. Depending on what choices we made and what consequences we are living with, some will be corrected soon, and others might be there for years to come. We simply can’t wait until everything is perfect and smooth to have a better mindset. Instead, as we improve our attitude now and implement some new habits and strategies, we will fast-track the process.
It’s kind of like we need to cooperate with ourselves in this goal or else we slow ourselves down and maybe even stop progress.
To get started, I’ll discuss 4 steps we can take to start the recovery process. These are:
- Develop a solid relationship with God
- Become wise to the devil’s tactics
- Get away from negative people and situations
- Start doing things that will result in improved living
1. Develop a solid relationship with God
Now, I’m not sure if you have a relationship with God at this point or not. But I would like to encourage you to consider this. I have been following God for many years now and He has been faithful to help me along the way.
God isn’t a magic Genie who will just grant your wishes and pluck you out of a bad scenario. However, He will help build the kind of character that is both able to function well in all situations as well as one that is able to lead.
If we choose to make poor choices along the way while walking with God, He will let us face the consequences of that choice. However, if we develop an ear to hear His voice, we can get promptings from Him that will help us make better choices.
We don’t know what’s around the next corner in life. For this, we’re driving blind. But thankfully, God isn’t. God has the bird’s-eye-view above us and can see all the turns in our road ahead and beyond. Because of this, we are wise to seek Him for direction and patiently wait on Him.
“Trust in the LORD with all your heart;
do not depend on your own understanding.
Seek his will in all you do,
and he will show you which path to take.”
What this means is that since we don’t know all the best choices to make, we can ask God and trust Him to help us get on the right path that will yield us far better results.
However, if we choose our own way over His, or instead of waiting for His response, we risk running head on into more consequences.
But if we choose God, we can also be of good cheer that all is going to work out better with Him leading us. As for maintaining a good attitude, let’s look at another verse:
“Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.”
If we trust God, He will give us a peace in our hearts that enables us to function well even in difficult situations. He will give us a steady mind and a heart of contentment; even in our worst struggles.
2. Become wise to the devil’s tactics and temptations
We can always make it worse, right?
“The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you can endure.”
We should find comfort here knowing that others struggle with temptations and wrong choices just as we do. And, we should find even more comfort knowing that God see’s Satan’s temptations for us and He offers us a way of escape; an exit route.
Did you know that Satan, the devil, is always trying to find ways to make us mess up? Did you know that he takes great pride in causing us to stumble and have to live in negative consequences? We can’t rush to blame the devil for our consequences as Satan only showed us the temptation or choice; it’s us who pulled the trigger and went for it.
We must understand that the enemy will always be there to undermine our best judgment. He will make it seem so great and harmless that even when we think of the negative results we’ll get, we start to reason that they won’t be so bad. However, as soon as we give in to the wrong choice, the devil either walks away laughing at us leaving us to clean up the mess or he will push negative, demeaning thoughts to our minds to beat us up after we fell for his trap.
We can’t trust that guy. If we want to live better, we need to spend time daily working on our relationship with Jesus and getting to know His voice and teachings. In doing this, we will also learn to notice the character of Satan, as well as his deceptive ways.
The more we walk with God and the less with the devil, the better our life is going to get.
3. Get away from negative people and situations
If there is one thing about a negative person, it’s that they’re contagious. If we hang around that person long enough, we are sure to catch their stinkin’ thinkin’. We need to know where the fine line is between trying to be a positive force in their life and when we need to break out of there.
If we are trying to deal with our own problems and work to build a better attitude in those situations, teaming up with another negative person will only add fuel to the fire. What’s worse than one person complaining about a poor situation? Two people complaining.
God doesn’t enjoy listening to us complain about anything.
“Soon the people began to complain about their hardship, and the LORD heard everything they said. Then the LORD’s anger blazed against them, and he sent a fire to rage among them, and he destroyed some of the people in the outskirts of the camp.”
Okay, so I don’t think that God is going to set you on fire if you complain. However, I did use this verse to show that God isn’t a fan of complaining. God is a provider and He gives us what is best for our situations. If we make a poor choice and must suffer some consequences, God wants us to learn from it, without complaining, and seek wisdom from Him instead.
I know this is hard to hear. I spent most of my life as a negative-minded person who complained about everything. Fortunately for me, I was not consumed by fire. But the negativity and complaining only slowed the process.
When I finally learned that I had to shift my focus to something different in life, something better, my attitude also shifted from negative to positive; from hopeless to hopeful.
God will give us hope in a hopeless situation. Even when we make poor choices that land us in even worse situations, God will still provide for our needs. Maybe not heaping huge blessings just yet, but He will carry us through the storms we face, even when we cause them.
4. Start doing things that will result in improved living
So, most of us know what we did to yield the results we are getting or have. Now, we need to look for the things that will yield us the results we want. As in the previous point, getting away from negative people and situations to the best of our ability is a good step. Next is to get away from complaining about how hard it is or how it will never be better.
And, now, we must look at some possible options for creating a better situation for the future; Lord willing.
“For I know the plans I have for you,” says the LORD. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.”
Hey, a person might want to look into these plans.
We can look into these plans. We can call on God and seek His direction. As we learn to walk in daily fellowship with the Lord, He reveals this plan for each of us step by step. But it only happens when we are surrendered to Him and acting in obedience.
This means that we must be willing to forego any and all things that will cause more chaos in our lives and patiently wait upon the Lord for direction.
One more verse to help us:
“Plans go wrong for lack of advice;
many advisers bring success.”
I’ve sought Godly counsel many times. This was helpful for me. I did say, Godly, right? The reason for this is because when we walk with God and are obedient to Him, He gives us His Wisdom. This wisdom is different from the kind we figure out on our own.
God’s wisdom is a gift and it always shows up in the right way. So, when we are struggling with a situation or a decision in life, we should pray to God about it, then we should find someone who is well-rooted in God to seek advice from.
If we opt not to choose this route, we are again relying on our own understanding to try and do the right thing. Of course, I’m talking about big, life-changing decisions here. What kind of soda will be right for dinner tonight doesn’t apply.
But as we seek help from others who are fit to direct us, we can work in confidence knowing that we are on a winning team now. With this, we can be confident that we are on track for a better life. This should help keep the attitude better.
Maintaining a good attitude in difficult situations will take effort from us. We can’t expect it to just happen. If we have made some poor choices that have landed us in a negative situation where life sucks, we must do what we can to prevent the situation from worsening, while doing what we can to keep the right mindset for growth and forward progress.
God makes this easier for us. But we need to reach out to Him on this and then trust Him to take the lead. This means stepping out of His way while He puts His plan in action, it means asking Him for peace in our heart and joy instead of complaining, and it means staying out of trouble; that is, walking in obedience to Him and being productive in our daily doings while being helpful to others.
I can assure you, God is faithful to help, and His plan is a winning one. I have been through this and am still going through this for certain things. I can confidently say that it is hard to wait, but now I’m not waiting to get out of the situation; instead, I’m waiting to see how God will provide. This makes it more exciting and easier to maintain a good attitude.
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