Do You Want To Make Better Choices In Life?

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James 1:5
“If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking.”

How much do you know about negative consequences? Well, if you are anything like me, you will be very familiar. So many of us are living each day in negative consequences due to poor decisions. Some make better choices than others, but most still make some foolish decisions periodically.

The problem with poor or foolish choices is that it hurts. At first, it hurts our pride. We get embarrassed and we blush a little. Later, if the consequence is long lasting, we start to hurt and want deliverance. To use a common example, and one that I still feel the wrath of, is financing and debt.

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Financing and debt are like oxygen in our society; at least here in North America. If we don’t have a credit card or a vehicle payment, we’re considered weird. I want to say that this is the work of Satan. Why? Because, debt destroys dreams and breaks up families. Debt creates division in so many organizations and relationships and in so many ways. And, this is exactly what the enemy is about; division.

2 Timothy 2:26
“Then they will come to their senses and escape from the devil’s trap. For they have been held captive by him to do whatever he wants.”

This Scripture shows us that the devil does place traps for us to fall into. Once in his traps, we become slaves to him. If we aren’t living under the Spirit of God, the only other spirit is the spirit of Satan. The problem with not choosing to live for God is that Satan becomes powerful over us and will consume us in any way he chooses.

The devil wants us to make poor choices

1 Peter 5:8
“Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour.”

Satan’s traps are many things. He will lure us into sinful living, he will tempt us with fancy things that cause us to impulse buy, and he will make us question all that is good. His plan is to get our focus on us only, and away from God and love and being kind and these things.

When he does this, we start to become divided. We can become divided in our relationships, as relationships can’t flourish in a “Me only” environment; we become divided with God, as we are to serve Him and not make and idol or image out of ourselves or anything else; and we can become divided in our own thoughts as we start to become confused about who we are and what our purpose really is in this life.

Satan will keep working us over until we have such low self-esteem that we believe that not even God could want us anymore. This is victory for the devil. He will literally push us from our highest point all the way to committing suicide. This happened to my father when I was ten years old, and almost to me on many occasions. So, for me, I know Satan is a destroyer.

Fortunately, I came to Christ and got saved. As soon as I did this, God sent the Holy Spirit to come into my life to be my Helper. With Him, I received His power over the enemy. This meant that I didn’t have to be a victim or slave to Satan ever again, even though it took me a long time to fully understand this as I do now.

But Satan keeps attacking. He doesn’t give up. In Matthew 4:1-11, Jesus was led to the wilderness to be tempted by Satan. Satan actually came and tried to tempt God, Himself. So, if the devil will try to tempt the Living God to sin, how much more susceptible are we to this?

Well, even though Satan will continue to tempt us and to try to attack us, if we have the Spirit of God in us, then God will provide a way for us to escape the temptation. We have the same power and authority in and through Jesus’ Name, but it’s us who must use this power and authority in Jesus’ Name, and believe.

Satan wants us to get wisdom, but his is worldly wisdom

Just as God wants us to get wisdom, so does Satan. God wants us to have Godly wisdom and the devil wants us to have worldly wisdom. The wisdom of God is the kind that teaches us about love and kindness and good stewardship and self-control.

James 3:17
“But the wisdom from above is first of all pure. It is also peace loving, gentle at all times, and willing to yield to others. It is full of mercy and the fruit of good deeds. It shows no favoritism and is always sincere.”

The worldly wisdom is the kind that teaches us about self-enhancement, self-advancement, doing things to please others, and to become as close to all-knowing as possible. Worldly wisdom seeks to replace God and to bring us to a level of self-sufficiency and self-reliance.

As Satan works to draw us away from God with things like relationships, money, possessions, career promotions, and various accomplishments, we must understand that by trying to attain these through him only leads to division and destruction.

However, what is interesting is that God doesn’t have a problem with all these things, as some would believe. When we come to God and put Him first in our lives, He adds these things to us.

Psalm 37:3-4
“Trust in the LORD and do good.
Then you will live safely in the land and prosper.
Take delight in the LORD,
and he will give you your heart’s desires.”

God gives us wisdom generously, and wants us to use it for good

I didn’t always live right. As mentioned in the paragraphs above, not only did I make financial mistakes, I was also brought nearly to the point of suicide many times. These certainly aren’t signs of Godly wisdom and walking in His Spirit. However, much later in life, I finally came to my senses and got sick of living for myself. I got tired of being frustrated everyday of living in negative consequences.

God showed me that the way to true happiness and freedom and victory is through a relationship with Him. Then, He taught me that I am to be a good steward of everything He gives me. I was anything but a good steward in the past. I messed up relationships, jobs, finances, personal well-being, homes and vehicles, and virtually everything else. I spent seven years completely drunk, day in, day out.

I have two ways to look at this; 1: I can fold myself down in the corner weeping bitterly for all the stupid choices I’ve made, or, 2: I can use these past experiences and the wisdom God is now giving me to help others to get out of similar situations, or hopefully, to avoid these pitfalls altogether.

I chose option 2.

God called me to a fresh start

I was so beat down in my self-image, that when God called me to my senses, I had no idea what I was good for. However, against all my best efforts, I became a blogger; and, an author. I know this makes little sense.

In the beginning of 2018, I decided that I would try to write articles and to become a blogger as my profession. At this point, I didn’t know that God was calling me into a career of writing. I was in a moment of personal development at that time. Everything I thought and breathed was personal development.

I wrote article after article and a few books. Soon, I had written over 100 articles. I sure was pleased with myself. But then God showed up and started asking some questions. He asked me; “Why do you write these articles to help people get better in life, but leave me out of every article?”

I went on for about another six months stubbornly writing in personal development, but still not including God. But then God showed up and started asking more questions. He asked me; “Why are you still writing articles to help people get better in life, but leave me out of every article; don’t you know that it is only Me who can truly help people?”

I couldn’t take it anymore. I was avoiding writing Godly articles because I was weak inside. The work Satan had done to me destroyed me completely on the inside. The last thing I wanted was more rejection and persecution. So, God was prompting me for several months to use my talent for His Kingdom, but because I was scared of persecution from unbelievers, I refused His calling on my life.

But I finally surrendered to God. I wrote a book called 12 Weeks in Colorado, and eventually, I deleted every single article from my blog that I had written about personal development. Also, I removed other books on personal development that I had written. I did this, not because they contained no good information, but rather, apart from God, the information is useless. Could I have added a paragraph about God into them? Maybe. But I believe a fresh start on the right foot was what God was calling me to.

Now, I am only writing articles that benefit the Kingdom of God. I have agreed with God that, moving forward, I would only use my writing talent to glorify God; regardless of rejection or persecution.

Matthew 5:10
“God blesses those who are persecuted for doing right,
for the Kingdom of Heaven is theirs.”

About 12 Weeks In Colorado

This book that I wrote is still a book on personal development, but, written under the prayerful direction of God. I wrote this book in a way that shows Godly wisdom and shares the love of Jesus. Oh, and in case you were wondering, yes, I am a Canadian, but I love the landscape of Colorado. I had to choose a location to base my story on, so I chose Colorado.

In 12 Weeks in Colorado, there are several characters. These characters aren’t simply “fillers.” Each character has a situation or a characteristic that is common to me, and many other people in our world.

One character has issues with procrastination and laziness and a lack of accountability. This character starts off in the book frustrated, jobless, can’t maintain a relationship, and has no idea on how to get upright on his feet again.

There are a few couples in the book; a couple who is having relationship and parenting issues, as well as alcoholism, a couple who is having financial issues, and a couple who has overcome these issues and is now using their experiences and wisdom for good.

Also, there is a couple who hears about God, there is a fellow who likes to share his faith in God, and there is a counselor who has a heart to help.

The book is called 12 Weeks in Colorado based on the two struggling couples and the first individual, who I described. This book follows along 6 therapy style sessions, 2 weeks apart, where knowledge and wisdom in their areas of distress are imparted on them. As we read in this book and follow along in the sessions, we see the steps the characters need to take to move from ruin to victory.

My hope with this book is that individuals and couples who are struggling in these areas will see that there are ways to climb out of these pits, and that there is hope. This book is a full-course meal that should satisfy. I have packed this book full of practical wisdom and knowledge to the point where you can’t open to a page that doesn’t deliver a lesson of some sort. I am confident that, not only is this book an interesting and fun read, but also, it’s a useful read. You’ll have to see for yourself!


In this article, I wanted to expose Satan for trying to cause us to make poor choices that result in negative consequences. This is his plan. He only has one gear; destroy. I also wanted to share that God is ready and willing to impart His love and wisdom on us, and that He will direct us to make good choices (Proverbs 3:5-6).

God knows that we’ve all gone through some hard stuff, but if we read the bible, we will see that all His children have gone through some hard stuff. God wants us to make good use of the hard stuff we endure.

Romans 8:28
“And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.”

We will go through some storms in life, but for those of us who choose to live for God and who are obedient to His Will, He will take the damage and intended harm from the storm and use it for our good.

I encourage anyone reading this; if you have a known talent, consider using it for the benefit of God’s Kingdom. Since I started doing this, I sleep better and feel good. I now feel like I am doing something that is truly “helping” people. I don’t feel useless and pointless anymore. God will use you in interesting ways if you surrender yourself to Him and seek out His Will for your life.

If you don’t know what your talent is, pray about it, and also, ask people who know you well. Often, other people can see things that we become blind to. One of God’s promises is that He gives all of us a spiritual gift that we can use to benefit His Kingdom; His people.

1 Peter 4:10
“God has given each of you a gift from his great variety of spiritual gifts. Use them well to serve one another.”

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Take care!

Unless otherwise indicated, all Scripture quotations are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996, 2004. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc. Carol Stream, Illinois 60188. All rights reserved.

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